Should I start divorce proceedings?

When times are difficult at home, it is sometimes the inevitable question.

You may, however, be concerned about the hostility and upset this may cause you, your partner and the children. Being sensitive to the timings can help to keep the divorce as amicable as possible, but if the other party is not on board, it can be upsetting.

I am often consulted by clients who are not emotionally ready to start divorce proceedings but want to learn more about their rights and the divorce process. They are dealing with a range of emotions and each client needs their own time to work through this.  Some clients are ready to get started when they come to see me for the first time. Some are not, and that is perfectly ok. Many clients inform me that the timing is not right because they have family holiday with the children approaching or because there has been a bereavement in the family recently, and for them it just would not be appropriate.

It is important to consider the welfare of your children when taking this decision, however, my advice to all my clients is that their welfare is just as important.  The sooner they start divorce proceedings, the sooner they can take steps to move forward and think positively about their future.  A simple straightforward divorce could take eight to twelve months to complete. This can extend to two, and in some circumstances three years, when financial matters are being dealt with at court.

My role as a family lawyer is to make sure that you understand your legal rights and to support you through this process. Having a lawyer does help to lessen the burden, as even an amicable divorce can be stressful.

If you are unsure about starting divorce proceedings, please do contact me. I will provide you with initial advice and set out the options available to you, so that you have the information to make an informed decision about whether this is what is right for you.

Email me at familylawyerlondon.

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